Scrap those wedding invites before it's too late

how come no one ever tells you the truth about marriage, BEFORE you do it? it's all yay! mabrouk! congrats! yippee! and happy, happy, joy, joy!

do they just want to keep the horrible truth from you because telling it would make it all so real, and interrupt their well maintained river of denial?

i blame it on the movies myself. all those romantic scenes, oh and fairytales too, they're just as bad, snow white and the like.

now when i see a girl in a wedding dress, i just think: what's she doing? why is she doing this to herself?

the one person in my life who ever told me the truth was my grandma, one day as she was sitting in bed, i asked her what she knew then but wished she knew when she was my age (10 yrs ago), she said very simply without any elaboration at all: Don't get married.

but did i listen?

maybe that's why they don't tell you, because they know you'll do it anyway. maybe it's a small way of getting revenge. maybe its hope that this time you'll somehow crack the code or discover that missing ingredient, maybe they just want an excuse to party.